What is Caring??

Everyone has there own basic definition of what to care means. Just in case you are unsure about it the general definition is as follows:

care /kɛər/ Pronunciation Key – Show Spelled Pronunciation[kair] Pronunciation Key – Show IPA Pronunciation noun, verb, cared, car·ing. –noun

1.	a state of mind in which one is troubled; worry, anxiety, or concern: He was never free from care.

2.	a cause or object of worry, anxiety, concern, etc.: Their son has always been a great care to them.

3.	serious attention; solicitude; heed; caution: She devotes great care to her work.

4.	protection; charge: He is under the care of a doctor.

5.	temporary keeping, as for the benefit of or until claimed by the owner: He left his valuables in the care of friends. Address my mail in care of the American Embassy.

6.	grief; suffering; sorrow.

–verb (used without object)

7.	to be concerned or solicitous; have thought or regard.

8.	to be concerned or have a special preference (usually used in negative constructions): I don’t care if I do.

9.	to make provision or look out (usually fol. by for): Will you care for the children while I am away?

10.	to have an inclination, liking, fondness, or affection (usually fol. by for): Would you care for dessert? I don’t care for him very much.

–verb (used with object)

11.	to feel concern about: He doesn’t care what others say.

12.	to wish; desire; like: Would you care to dance?

Sometimes as people we just don’t understand one another at all. Ever get that feeling as to where the hell are they coming from and why are they acting this way?Im sure we all have. One day the person acts completely normal and then the next day you wake up to something completely different and ask yourself what the fuck just happened?!I mean one minute everything seems fine, there are no signs of change coming and then BAM right in the face they change and your stuck with your thumb up your ass trying to figure shit out.

One thing is certain though in regards to relationship caring. You know that you can’t all the sudden drop your feelings for that person. You want to hold on but at the same time you don’t want to but yet your afraid if you do let go what if everything goes back to normal. Then you just screwed yourself. Once that happens you try to fix it and it either works or there is no point in going further. Well if you ever come across this situation, which im sure someone will and has, just remember:

• If you dont expect much in life, then there is nothing to disappoint you in the future*
• Take life one day at a time, dont go thinking whats going to happen tomorrow when its still today
• Never under any circumstances fully blame yourself**
• There is always room for improvement, but its not always the answer
• Make sure you’re always happy***
• Make the best of life and situation at hand

*This of course can be argued against. Its just meant to say in the short run dont give your hopes up. People do need expectations but make sure they are limited.

**This is true unless you know its your fault for example lighting a house in fire would be fully someone’s fault

***This is give and take. I know people say dont be selfish but come on, you do have to look out for yourself right?

I know these little bits of advice above you may have heard before but hey they are just reminders and helpful thoughts to get you through life. Remember though when you do care for someone be yourself and all will fall into place. If you do care show the person and them knowing how you feel is the most rewarding thing. Also remember that the most underlying thing is friendship. If you don’t keep this then what’s the point?In the mean time, stay classy!

~ by Blue on December 12, 2007.